中文名称：你做得到：改变人生的100个方法
英文名称：100 Ways to Motivate Yourself
资源类型：MP3
地区：美国,加拿大
语言：英语
简介：
哲学家说：「人因梦想而伟大」，心理学家以「认知改变态度」演绎这句名言，而本书《你做得到-改变人生的100个方法》则以作者的自身体验，詮释了生活中小故事的智慧。
作者曾经以为，其他人在某个时候获赠了一本「如何让人生成功」的指南，而因为某种理由，当他们发这本书时他正好不在。「一直到三十五、六岁的时候，我还在挣扎，对前途很悲观，生活也没有目标。」直到他开始接触到「自我激励」的书籍与课程，才逐渐与「沮丧」说再见。
希望快乐、成功、致富是人心底或强烈的慾求，然而事实却是，我们受沮丧、挫折、不良的习惯与负面的想法的折磨。
作者在近中年时才开始这一连串的接触体验，最后他成为一位企业训练专家，四处演讲「自我激励」的主题。这本书则是收录了他最常与大眾分享的100个促使「改变」发生的信念与方法。
悲观的人看这类像是「卡内基式」的自我激励书籍不免认为：「他的成功不过是从小幸运吧。」可亲的是，作者在书中多次自己悲观的幼年期、吸毒的青年期，也提到许多受沮丧困扰的其他人，让读者觉得自己的沮丧并不孤单，而篇幅长度正好，不至於多到让人陷入自怜的情绪中。
过去三十年，大眾心理学与自助式书籍在美国阅读市场佔有一个重要的位置，一方面是由於，不是人人都负担得起接受「心理治疗」的高昂费用，另一方面，这类书籍中强调「我办得到」的积极态度，切中美国人相信人可以经由努力改善人生的信念。本书则应用「认知改变态度、态度改变行为」这一个心理学概念，鼓励读者，成功始於每一个小小的行动改变。
简单的说，这是一本告诉人如何「成功」的书，藉由对自己正面喊话以鼓舞乐观。例如，对於财富我们想追求却又犹豫，作者说：赚钱这件事是「我们以自己对世界的贡献，交换和使用金钱。」、「如果我活在贫困之中，我能给孩子和其他人多少爱和帮助呢？」赚钱、赚更多的钱没有什么不对，而且有了更高远的意义。
内容简介
一九七六年，当阿诺史瓦辛格告诉本书作者，他想成为好莱坞最受欢迎的电影明星时，只是一名身躯庞大而笨重的举重选手，且带着一口浓重的奥地利口音。他达成那个目标的可能性几乎是零，但是阿诺后来做到了。
本书捕捉了阿诺成功的秘诀，再加上许多引人入胜的实际行动方案，将能帮助你培养自我激励的能力，把「如果当初那么做就好了！」的悲观思想，转化成「我将来可以怎么做？成为什么样的人？」的乐观思想。
书中提出的方法，都是来自作者丰富的训练经验，一百个已被证实最能被人们记住的方法，将有助於你在事业和生活上创造一个行动计画，改变阻碍你达成目标的负面及悲观思想，朝向理想中的人生迈进。
作者：史蒂夫．钱德勒是美国知名作者、公眾演说家及企业员工训练专家，在全美各地及加拿大为公司企业及非营利组织举行研习营和研讨会。他为超过400家企业规划员工训练课程，包括：摩托罗拉、德州仪器（Texas Instruments）、AlliedSignal、微软及AT&T等。 其着作《你做得到：改变人生的100个方法》曾荣登美加畅销书排行榜
这是整本书 key ponits:
100 Ways to Motivate Yourself
Action is required. Goals are not enough. You have to take action.
1. Create a vision. *
Create a vision of who you want to be and live into that picture as if it's already true. You create it, you don't wait until you receive it. You can make it up.
2. Tell a true lie.
Make up a lie about how great you are to make yourself sound unbelievably wonderful. Think of a picture of who you want to be. Without that picture, you can't live up to that self.
3. Leave your comfort zone. *
Our society encourages us to seek comfort. And yet only challenge will test our skills and make us better. Only challenge and the self motivation to engage that challenge will transform us. And every challenge we face creates a more skillful self. Look for challenges to motivate yourself. It's up to you to notice your stuck in a comfort zone. It's up to you to break free from it and fly away.
4. Find your key.
Book: "The Master Key to Riches" by Napoleon Hill. "The great master key to riches is nothing more or less than the self discipline necessary to take complete full control of your own mind. Remember the only thing you have complete control is your own mental attitude." Maybe the hill book is not your "key", but you'll find your own instruction book if you look for it. It's out there, waiting for you.
5. Plan your work. *
When your too depressed or when your too upset to start something new. But then that's the perfect time to learn life's important rule. The rule is the transmutation of those negative emotions through "definitely planned work." Definitely planned work is the path to self motivation after you create your vision of who you want to be. Definitely planned work contained the power of PURPOSE. One hour of planning saves three hours of execution. It is impossible to work passionately with a sense of purpose and feel depressed at the same time. Successfully planned work will motivate you to do more and more than you ever thought possible.
6. Move your goal posts.
Most people don't realize the reason their not getting what they want in life is because their major goals are too small and too vague. And therefore have no power. Your major goal will not be reached if it fails to excite your imagination. What really moves you is to set a large and specific POWER goal. A power goal is a DREAM that drives you. People that create power goals are living on PURPOSE. They know what their up to in life. You know you had a power goal by observing it's effect on you. It's not was a goal is that's important, it's what it does.
7. Dribble with your other hand.
It's not that you can't, it's that you haven't. You need to start reprogramming your habits of thinking. You can think optimistically if you build it up slowly one thought at a time. i.e. with small persistent incremental victories.
8. Play your character.
How you act is who you become. We can get energy and motivation by doing the character who we want to be. We can become that character if we practice being that character all the time.
9. Don't just do something, sit there.
Sit quietly and do absolutely nothing. Be alone for a long time all by yourself. Sitting in silence allows your true dream in life to take shape and clarity. In life today, your either living your dream or someone elses. And unless you give your dreams the time and space it needs to express itself, you'll live the better part of your life living the dreams of other people.
10. Use the right chemicals.
Use the chemicals that already exists in your system when you laugh, sing, dance, hug someone. When your having fun, your body chemistry changes. Once you make a job fun, you solved the problem of self motivation.
11. Leave high school.
In high school we become fearing about what others think of us. Our mission in life became not being embarrassed. We were afraid to look bad, so we made a point not to take risks. Most people designed their entire lives based on what other people think of them. But we can leave that habit behind. Emerson: "Why should the way I feel depend on the thought in someone else's head."
12. Lose face.
You can create a self that doesn't care about what other people think. You can motivate yourself by leaving the painful self consciousness of high school behind. Show me a guy who is afraid to look bad and I can show you a guy you can beat every time.
13. Sing without feeling.
Become a performer. Act like you feel like you want to feel. "We do not sing because we're happy. We're happy because we sing." If you want to be happy, find the happiest song you know and sing it. It works.
14. Kill your television. *
If your watching too much television, you might find it useful to ask this question. Which side of the glass do you want to live on? When you watching television, you're watching other people do what they love to do for a living. Those people are on the best side of the glass because they're having fun and you're passively watching them have fun. They're getting money and you're the one paying. "I find television very educational. Every time some turns it on, I go to the other room to read a book."
15. Read yourself a story. *
Abraham Lincoln would read the newspaper everyday aloud. He discovered that he remembered twice as much if he read aloud than if he read it silently and he remembered twice as long of a time.
16. Get on your death bed. *
Many of us keep pretending that our game has no end. We plan to do great things someday when we feel like it. Confronting our own death doesn't have to wait until we run out of life. In fact being able to vividly imagine our last hours on our death bed creates a paradoxical sensation. The feeling of being born all over again and that's the first step of self motivation.
17. Be lazy to begin with. ****
"There isn't any job that can't be handled if you break it down into small pieces" - Henry Ford. When you break a job down, remember to allow yourself some laziness in the beginning. Because it isn't important how fast you're doing it, what's important is that you ARE doing it. The irony is, the slower you start something, the faster you'll finish. When you first think about doing something hard and overwhelming, you're mostly aware of how you don't want to do it at all. In other words, the mental picture you have of doing the activity fast and furiously is not a happy picture so you think of ways to avoid doing the job all together. Thinking about starting slowly is easy. And doing it slowly allows you to actually start doing it. Therefore it gets finished.
18. Leave your friends.
Stay away from soul call friends who don't support your goals. When you're in a conversion with a pessimists possibilities seems to have a way of disappearing and a sense of cynicism. Remember, cynics do not create. Everyone knows that enthusiasm is contagious. And being in a conversation with an optimist opens us up to more and more of life's possibilities.
19. Plan you game.
Design your own life game plan. Let the game respond to you rather than the other way around. Act on the crucial difference between CREATING verus RESPONDING.
20. Find your inner Einstein.
The next time you see a picture of Albert Einstein, realize that's actually you. Every human has the capacity of genius. To experience Einstein's creative level of thinking all you have to do is comment to using your imagination. This is sometimes a difficult recommendation for grown ups to follow. Grown ups become using their imagination for only one thing, worrying. Grown ups visualize worst case scenarios all day long. All their energy for visualization is channeled into colorful pictures of what can go wrong. Worrying is a MISUSE of the imagination. What people don't comprehend is that the human imagination was designed for better things. People who use their imagination to create often achieve things that worriers never dream of achieving. Even if the worriers have much higher IQ(s). Dreaming is the design stage of creating the future. Imagine yourself living a motivated life.
21. Feel good first. *
Most people think they'll feel good once they reach some goal. They think happiness is OUT THERE somewhere. The problem with feeling good about yourself until you hit a goal is that it might never happen. By linking happiness to something you don't have yet, you denying yourself the power to create it in the moment. Your happiness is your birth right. It shouldn't depend on you ACHIEVING something. Start by claiming it and using it to make your journey fun all the way and not just at the end.
22. Run toward your fear. *
The world's best kept secret is that on the other side of your fear there's something safe and beneficial there waiting for you. If you work through even a small fear, you'll increase your confidence in your ability to create your life. "Fear kill more people than death. Death kills us but once and we usually don't even know it. But fear kills us over and over again. subtle at times and brutal at other times." The rush we get after running through the waterfall of fear is the most energizing feeling in the world. If you're ever in an under motivated mood, find something you fear and do it. And watch what happens.
23. Just be unexpected.
Most people don't see ourselves as creative, but we all are. The reason is we associate being creative as being "original." But that's not the case. Being creative has nothing to do with originality, but it has to do with being "unexpected." If your willing accept that you are creative, you can start coming up with all these different "unexpected" ways of answering all the problems life throws at you.
24. Create your relationship.
"We are each angels with only one wing, so we can only fly and embarrass each other." We can't create our truest selves without creating relationships in the process. Relationships are everywhere. In relationship, most of think with our emotions, not our minds. Don't think with your feelings though. Think with your mind and you'll be able to create the relationships you want in your life. They just don't "happen" to you.
25. Be where you are.
Most of us don't ever focus. We're constantly feel this type of psychic chaos because we're always thinking about too many things at once. Focus on what you want and it will come to you life. Focus on being a happy and motivated person and that's who you will be. FOCUS.
26. Act like a hero.
We need heroes in our lives. They are not a sign of weakness, they are a source of strength. "Without heroes, we are just plain people and we don't know how far we can go." Heroes show us what is possible for a human being is able to accomplish, therefore are very useful for anyone interested in self motivation. You don't have to have just one hero, choose a number for them. Put their pictures up. Become an expert in their lives. Collect books about them. Let your heroes lives inspire you. They're only people like we are. What distinguish them from us is their great level of self motivation. To passively adore them is an insult to our potential. Instead of looking up to our heroes, it's much more beneficial to look into them.
27. Accept your will power. *
Lot of people say they don't have will power. But if you think you don't have will power, your under minding your own success. Everyone has will power. To be listening to this program you got to have will power. The first step in developing your will power is to attempt it's existence. The 2nd step is to know that your will power is like a muscle in your arm is yours to develop. Your in charge of making it strong or let it become weak. Will power is not strengthened by random external circumstances. Will power is an inside game. Make a promise to yourself to be clear and truthful about your own will power. It's always there.
28. Say "No" to yourself. ****
A lot of people are afraid of the word "discipline" but the root of the word "discipline" is the word "disciple." When your self disciplined, you simply decided in the matter of the word to become your own "disciple." Once you make that decision, your life's adventures becomes more interesting. You see yourself as a different person. You start to gain your own SELF RESPECT. "Self respect is the fruit of discipline. The sense of dignity growths with the ability to say 'no' to oneself." - Abraham Hassel. "When we say no to temptation, the power of that 'temptation' passes into our will power." - Emerson. We should do 2 things everyday that we don't want to do. By doing this, we become more aware of our will power.
29. Make new word connections.
If you associate the word "will power" as harsh punishment you'll weaken your resolve to build it. To increase your resolve, you need to think about "new word connections." i.e. weight lifters think failure as success. Be more aware of the language you use and guide that language to more personal power.
30. Deprogram yourself.
If you watch/listen to news programs on a regular basis, you belong to a very hypnotic cult. You need to be de programmed. Start be altering how you listen to the media. Program out all the negative and cynical thoughts that you allow to flow into your mind unchecked when you hear the news. Once you become better at factoring out all the negative media, make your own news. Be your own breaking story.
31. Open the present. ****
Practice being awake in the present moment. Make the most awareness of this moment. Don't live the past unless you like guilt. Don't live in the future unless you like fear. Just stay focused on today. Watch what happens to your motivation.
32. Serve and grow rich.
You can motivate yourself by increasing the flow of money into your life. Most people are even embarrassed to think this way. They don't want to think and grow rich because they'll be though as being greedy. They believe to make money, you have to take it away from someone else. Or they don't want to come across as being obsessed with money. You know who are the people that are really obsessed with money? People who think they don't have enough. They obsess of money all day long. It's in their family discussions, it's in their minds at night, it becomes a destructive part of their relationships during the day. "Our first duty in life is not to be poor" - George Bernard Shaw. The road to not being poor always travels through your professional relationships. The more serve those relationships, the more productive you'll become and the more money you'll make. Allow yourself to link your financial well being with your increase compassion for others. If I live in poverty, how much love and attention can I give my children or to my fellow humans. How much help can I give to others if I'm always worrying about being in debt.
33. Imitate 'Columbo'
In your professional life, always be CURIOUS. When you meet with someone think of yourself as a detective. Ask questions. By asking questions in your relationships, your already creating the relationship. Your already self motivated. Your not waiting for the other person to make it happen.
34. Give away some power. ****
Motivate yourself by giving someone else the ideas for self motivation. You can have any experience you want in life, simply by giving away that experience to someone else. It's called "Instant Karma." If you want to be motivated, shift your inspiration to someone else. Point out their strengths. Offer encouragement and support. Watch what it does for you.
35. Talk to yourself. * ****
Don't be nervous talking to yourself. We associate it with 'insanity'. But Plato said, "Thinking was the soul talking to itself." There is no one better to talk to then yourself when you really want to get things worked out. No other person has enough information about your problems. No one knows your skills and capabilities better. We get our creative thinking going each morning by asking ourselves 2 questions. 1. What's good in my life? 2. What is there still to be done? Because thought always perceive action. Talking to yourself is a proven way to get motivated.
36. Schedule your comebacks.
Progress toward your goals is never going to be a straight line, It's always going to be a wavy line. You'll go up and come down a little. Two steps forward and one step back. Now most people will get discouraged when they take the two steps back, they think they're failing. But they really hasn't. They really in sync with the natural rhythm of progress. Now once you understand this rhythm, you can look ahead on your calendar to refresh, renew, and recover. Schedule your comeback while you're still on top. Schedule a block of time to get away. Even to get away from what you love. Because coming back is going to be that much more exciting when you've been renewed.
37. Live you're true life. *
"When you say you fear death, you're really saying you've not lived you're true life." This fear cloaks the world in true suffering. How do you know what you're true life is? How do you know how to live it? First, find out what makes you happy and start doing that. i.e. if writing makes you happy, start writing. Don't just wait until something is offered to you. Be proactive about your happiness. There is no goal better than this one. To know as you lay in you're death bed that you've lived you're true life. You did what it was that made you happy.
38. Get up on the right side of the bed.
Get up on the right side of you're brain. Dreams, and energy, and creative insight comes from the right side of the brain. Linear, logical, short term, and short sighted thinking comes from the left side of the brain. The best explanation of how whole brain thinking surpasses just one sided thinking is in a book called, "Frankenstein's castle." - Wilson. We have more control in drawing vital energy and creative ideas from right brain then we ever realized. And what stimulates the right brain the most is a high sense of purpose. If you had to carry a bag of sand around town, you're left brain would say it was boring. But if you had to carry your daughter that weighed the same as the bag of sand, then you would carry her with more energy. That energy comes from the right side of the brain. Purpose gives you that energy. Self motivation increases when the left brain gets good at telling the right brain what to do.
39. Use your magic machine. *
Most people wait for an external crisis to finally kick in their whole brain thinking. But the leads to a life of reaction other than creation. The 3 best ways to activate whole brain thinking are through 1. goal setting. 2. Joyful work. 3. Revitalizing play. So rather wait for some external crisis to appear, you can create an internal challenge of your own. Goals and games. Goals and games motivate you more than anything else in the world.
40. Get your stars out.
"Make sure you get your stars out." Let the universe that is in you shine freely. Don't try too hard to force things, just get your stars out and let them shine.
41. Be a finisher.
Do you want to know where fatigue really comes from? It doesn't come from working too hard. All the research shows that fatigue comes from not finishing your work. "Nothing is more fatiguing than the hanging on of an uncompleted task." - William James. The best way to change your belief system is to change the truth about you. To believe that you are a good finisher, you have to build a personal record of finishing tasks. Each day make a list of small tasks and finish them. We motivate ourselves by finishing things.
42. Invent games.
Whatever it is that you have to do, whether it's a major project at work or a huge cleaning job a home, turning it into a game will always give you higher energy and self motivation.
43. Interact. ****
There's a huge difference between active relaxation and passive relaxation. Active relaxation refreshes and restores the mind. It keeps it flexible and toned for thinking. Great thinkers have known this secret for a long time. Some people use to paint to relax, others play the violin. They can relax one side of the brain while stimulating the other. When they return to work, their mind is sharper than ever. Most of use simply deaden the mind when we want to relax. We rent mindless videos, read magazines, we drink, we smoke, we eat until we're foggy and blotted. The problem with this form of relaxation is that we dulls our creativity and it makes it hard to come back into consciousness. But when we find ways to link thinking into our relaxation, we become players in the game of life and not just spectators.
44. Live a whole life today.
"Make each day you're masterpiece." While other people focus on some special day in the future, you should always focus on today. Practice sessions are every bit as important than any championship game. There is no reason to make TODAY the proudest day of your life. Today is the macrocosm of you're entire life. It's your whole life in miniature. You got eternity in the palm of your hand. Life is now. Life is not later on. And the more we hypnotize ourselves into thinking that we have all the time in the world to do what we want to do, the more we sleep walk and the more we miss life.
45. Welcome your problems.
Ever solution has a problem. You can't have one without the other. So why do we say we hate problems. Why do we claim we want a hassle free existence? Deep down, where our wisdom lives, we know that problems are not to be feared. Problems are simply tough games for the athletes of the mind. And true athletes always want to get a game going. If you learn to love the opportunities your problems present, then your motivational energizes will always rise. Remember, every solution has a problem.
46. Drive a library.
One of the greatest opportunities you improve yourself lies in your drive time using audio tapes. Use audio tapes to educate and motivate yourself while you drive. If we leave what we think about to chance or to an R-rate disk jockey then we lose a large measure of control of our own mind. Audio cassette learning is one of the surest way to learning from your subconscious mind. It's one of best ways to design an action orientated belief system. The kind you need to inspire on going self motivation.
47. Rewind your thoughts.
Perhaps you noted some idea in this program or book you've read that you want to hold on to. Even a single phrase, if you place it prominently in your home or your office, can have a huge impact in your life. So write things down, put things up. Write down what motivates you and put it up where you can see it.
48. Make yourself up.
One of the ways to get starting in making goals and action plans is just start making them up like you did when you were a kid. Think of creating in simpler terms than that. The of creating is something that all human beings do very easily. "Always think of what you have to do as EASY and it will be."
49. Get small.
Most people participating in the free enterprise system have been convinced in setting large and specific long range goals for themselves. Career goals, yearly goals, and monthly performance goals are always on the mind with a person with ambition. But maybe people over look all together the power of small goals. Goals set during the day that give energy to the day in a sense of achieving a lot of small wins along the way. By increasing your conscious use of small objectives, you'll see the larger objectives coming to reality much faster than you thought they would.
50. Get out of the box.
All of us tend to look at our challenges from inside a box. We take what we've done in the past and put it in front of our eyes and then envision what we call "the future." But you see, that restricts our future. With that kind of restricted view, the best the future can possibly be is a new and better past. Great motivational energy occurs when we get out of that box and realize that the possibilities for creative ideas are infinite. To create the best possible future for yourself, don't look at through a box containing your own past. Create the future from nothing.