Embracing Sincerity, Fusing into Society
-------Graduation Speech for 2010
Today it comes to your graduation ceremony. You 6000 students have been studying together for 4 years and now, it is the last time for you to meet and create laughters of graduation and misery of departure on campus.
From tomorrow on, everyone of you will start another journey on your own and fuse into the vast ocean of society.
Our society is unfamiliar to us, which is full of happiness and sorrows, ups and downs. As a fresh man, how can we adapt to it? Are you fully prepared or still feeling confused? My suggestion is that you should try to build up your own networking of friends as soon as possible. Without it, it is by no means possible that you can lead a smooth life and launch your career.
It is the most difficult to deal with people, but so is the easiest.
Everyone has certain degree of exclusiveness and possessivenss. They try to conduct their judgement with a set of their own criteria, which then generates stubbornness and prejudice, mechanical hierarchy, unfair policy and competition. Therefore, Sartre has ever said, “Others are hell”(From one-act play, Isolation), and Lu Xun also has said, “I tend not to think others in a most wicked way.”(From essay, Memory of Liu Hezhen).
人更有相互依存性，有强大的“我们”意识，有牢不可破的谋求人类自身发展的人本观念，总要同舟共济，总要相互帮助。高中毕业时，一位女生对我说，你一辈子要人帮你。回想一生，的确如此。相互依存、相互帮助，是人的社会属性，也是人的智慧理性。人的排他性，不能阻止人的博爱、人的合作，人的互助，不能阻止“我们”的日益升华。惟其如此，才能有铁坦尼号沉没时该船乐队的忘我演奏，才能有川北大震时无数志愿者的云来雨集；人，这个原本称作“裸猿”（the naked ape）的族类，才能丢下石头操纵光电，才能高声呐喊“生而平等”。所以，我宁肯说 “他人是天堂”，宁肯说 “我向来不惮以最好的善意推测别人”。
People have a strong sense of mutual relying and team. We also have a strong humanity-based conception of seeking our own development with all might, so we need to cooperate and help each other to reach our destination. I still remember when I graduated from senior middle school, a girl told me, “You need others’ help for your whole life.”In retrospect, it is downright correct! It is human’s social attribute as well as intelligence to rely on and help each other. Our feature of exclusiveness cannot prevent us from loving each other, cooperating with each other, helping each other and developing mutually as a whole. It can be fully demonstrated in the passionate play of the bank in the sinking Titanic and the concerted assistance of numerous volunteers in Wenchun Earthquake. Human, as was called the naked ape originally, can then get rid of stone and manipulate light and electricity, and exclaim “everyone is born equal.”Hence, I would rather say that others are paradise and that I tend not to think others in a most kindly way.
We should all keep in mind the concept of “We” and practice it. We should not fear to deal with others. It is not good to feel extremely nervous or apathetic to communicate with others and keep silent all the time. It is by no means good to isolate yourself from others and stay at home all the time. It is actually, from the perspective of Human Study that focuses on self-fulfillment and self-development, the oppression of life and passion as well as human relationship.
You should hold firmly the belief that others, though kind of unfamiliar, are actually warm-hearted. As long as you can get on well with them, you will meet a wealth of kind-hearted people who are waiting to know you and cooperate with you. In our faculties’ canteen, a five-year-old girl sat in front of a fifty-year-old professor that she had never seen before. The professor asked her, “Don’t you feel afraid of strangers?” The little girl answered, “There are no strangers in the world.”If you are still single, then it is probable that an unknown man or lady is waiting to date with you and love you until he or she becomes your husband or wife. No wonder some people may say that the most beautiful popular song is “Love Strangers Only”.
To get on well with others is not that difficult. What it needs is merely a plain passport which shows not your talent, your individuality, your status or wealth, but your sincerity.
A sincere man thinks kindly and behaves with real promise. Sincerity means we should treat others with a kind heart and stick to our promise. It is the cornerstone of developing a vast networking of friends, without which friends will become strangers, colleagues will become enemies, lovers will depart and couples will break down. Treating others sincerely, though you are living in poor condition, a lot of friends will visit you. treating others falsely, though you are a millionair, no one will patronize your house. A man without sincerity deserves no belief and help from others.
The first principle of sincerity is not to pay lip service. Paying lip service is actually cheating that can give you no friends. Sincerity does not allow reneging. Sincerity tells us not to pay lip service and do according to our own ability. It does not allow perfunctoriness, which means you should make a decisvie decision right away without delaying others’ affairs. Sincerity does not allow default. We should stick to the contract made with others. Sincerity advocates justice. For something that is beneficial to everyone, we should try our best to do it; for something that is beneficial to others without harming the third party, we can do it; for something that is beneficial to others but will harm the third party, we should not do it; for something that is illegal, we should by no means do it. Years ago, an alumnus, without blind belief in friendship, helped another alumnus entreprenuer to cheat a bank for loans, making the ever-serious financial crime case. The lesson is extremely heavy. Sincerity promotes frankness and rightful deeds. We should not commit duplicity and speak ill of others. These kinds of people are doomed to be disdained and discarded by others. Sincerity requires us to speak the truth and reveal the fake. Several days ago, the German football team did some cheating and won the match. However, the whole nation’s fame has been totally ruined. The so called “German Tank” is already an unclean tank.
We all know that our campus of sincerity is not perfect, either. I feel sorry that we still cannot give up “forced sincerity”. This year, we still adopt the routine policy and use some certificate deplicates to force some poor students to be sincere. We also cannot totally eliminate some fake poverty reports, exam cheating and inner pilferage that have a severe negative impact on our campus fame. But it is never too late to make up for what we lack.
We still believe that sincerity is the major feature for our campus. During four years in school, you respected teachers, read extensively, studied industriously and finally graduate successfully. It is indeed the reflection of your sincerity of being a useful person to our society. You rescued the snow disaster and Wenchuan Earthquake, did voluntary teaching in mountainous areas and served communities. These are the reflection of your commitment of loving the people. You criticized the school affairs, called for education reform, whipped the dark sides of our society and commented the politics. These are reflection of your commitment of caring about school and the world. In the future, you may go to work, go to establish your business or go to receive further education. These are reflection of your commitment of relentless striving. The helpful and loving relationship between you and your schoolmates is actually a blooming flower of sincerity.
Sinceerity leads to invincibility. We are expecting all of you can embrace sincerity, fuse into society and go smoothly in the future!
July 1st, 2010